With the start of a new school year,
we are more than likely going to hear about more bullying
and although our big intention every year
is to raise even more awareness,
our approach just doesn’t seem to be hitting home.
We seem to think that it’s the kids we need to be reaching out to
and yet nothing shakes us more
than that one story of a young soul
taking their own life because it’s been too unbearable
at the hands of another youngster.
“Bullying is learned behaviour,
and anything learned,
can be unlearned.”
Dr. C. Sally Murphy
Why are we making it about the kids only?
don’t they get their impressions and ideas from us as adults
to begin with?
Think about it for a minute.
What we may judge out loud
becomes normal according to them
whether you are a parent or not.
That little comment about the overweight cashier
that seems a bit slow when you are in a hurry
may not seem all that important
but little Johnny or Susie
just heard it
and if Mom or Dad
or any over the hill adult
can do that,
than naturally it turns into the question,
why can’t I?
Our prejudices also come into play.
You have a problem with another race
or sexual preference
and while conversing with someone,
you let it be known what your opinion of them is,
because after all,
YOU are perfect
and they are not.
All you perfect people may as well stop reading at this point
and the rest of you can keep going if you like.
The question still remains.
Well guess what,
this is where it all starts
and every year we wonder why it’s happening,
or why it’s getting so out of control.
Our attack on this has been to teach our kids
and they will very quickly listen
and magically it will stop.
Wake up people!
Clearly we need to make bigger changes
and if we are going to do this,
it has to start at the root.
For every remark you make towards another human being,
it becomes a catalyst to our children.
They mirror us,
they believe us
and most of all
they trust us.
It basically comes down to the oldest saying we have ever been taught.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!”
If you want your child to be aware of how wrong it is
to tear someone down
simply because they are different,
start correcting things at home.
Certainly there are those who just don’t get it
and sadly those are the ones who really should be reading this
but nothing can change if someone doesn’t start
talking about what is real
and not wait till the point
where that beautiful young girl
or freckle face boy
has their faces plastered on the news
or social media
with the sad report that follows
“We have lost another young one to suicide.”
the heart wrenching interview
with the grieving and lost parents.
My heart hurts every single time I see that young face
on the news or on social media
who clearly suffered at the hands of others
and it isn’t until than
that we address it.
We waited far too long
to finally get pissed off.
If there is going to be finger pointing
let’s stop pussy footing around it
and hit it on the head
because if we don’t,
we will lose more
and honestly folks,
ONE has been too many.
Our biggest obstacle is denial.
So many out there thinking
“my kid knows better than to do that”
You sure about that?
Keep in mind,
since the second they were born,
they have heard every word you have spoken
parent or no parent.
They have absorbed every opinion you have ever voiced
with regard to the rest of the human race.
Before school started for them,
you were one of their first teachers
and now that you have thought about this,
what did you really teach them?
So again, I ask you…
YOU SURE ABOUT THAT?
In a perfect world,
we could address those grown-ups
who desperately need to make these changes
that I am pleading for
and thinking if we ask them to do so
they would simply comply
and like a miracle,
all would be well in the world
it is not a perfect world
there are some complete idiots out there
who just don’t care
or think it’s not their problem to deal with.
So the idea is rather easy.
If you are as concerned about this as I am,
start watching your own behaviour
and let your kids know
it’s unacceptable at any age!
Let’s not wait for something to happen
to begin talking about it.
For the love of God,
keep the lines of communication open,
lead my example
and decide it’s time to make that change.
Wouldn’t today be a good day
God bless everybody
especially our kids!