Along with so many others
glancing at an empty chair
our family will be missing
one very special man.
Eddie, Dad, Papa!
The idea of our first formal holiday
since he passed,
not having him in the middle
of all the chaos
seems rather pointless
to even celebrate.
Dad had a way of making his rounds
and usually keeping us in stitches.
The rules were simple
when it came to holiday festivities,
Mom did all the planning and preparing
(with Mama of course)
and delegating us girls
as to what we could contribute to the big feast.
Dad would simply be Mom’s chauffeur
to and from the grocery store
but his main function for turkey day
was what he did best,
He wasn’t much of a drinker the last few years
but when he did open a beer,
I used to laugh at him
because he would say things like,
“if your Mother asks, this is my first one!”
“have a beer with me so I’m not drinking alone!”
I would laugh even harder
because after 50 years of marriage,
Mom knew more about his behaviour
than he did most of the time
but it never got old
and was always amusing to watch.
It’s hard to imagine his wonderful presence
that won’t be sitting with us
and how it really won’t ever be the same
but while remembering some of those fun times,
something came to mind.
Although his physical presence is missing,
his spirit still has so much power.
In every story we share,
or every moment we remember
Dad will really be with us.
Chances are he’ll be
hovering in the kitchen
and probably wondering when
Mama will start making her gravy
or sneaking cheese from the platter in the fridge
knowing if Mom caught him,
“Eddie, get out of there, that’s for later!”
I would imagine when the camera’s come out,
(and that is standard Stewart tradition if you are a first time reader)
he’ll be in every shot
doing what he loved doing the most,
being a total ham
(or should I say Turkey)
Case in point: Thanksgiving 2012
I think the biggest thing to remember
why I should possibly be thankful
is he gave us so many memories
to be thankful for
regardless of what we are dealing with this year.
I actually started to dread this day
but the one thing that keeps
popping into my mind
is he would be heartbroken
if we didn’t continue to love life
and treasure making new memories
as a family
even without him.
I am sure he is so proud of us
although we are all grieving
in our own ways
yet I can envision that little smile is on his face
knowing that we have all come together
not to be saddened
but more so
to gather and regain,
even more strength.
I can’t lie and say it will be easy
not having him here
however he’s been alongside us all along
and nothing made him more at peace
than being thankful
having his family surrounding him.
So if by chance you have an empty chair
and struggling a bit this Thanksgiving
there is a good possibility
those we are missing
are very busy working the room
and if that doesn’t help,
you may wanna check
the cheese platter in the fridge 😉
From our family to yours…
Happy Thanksgiving and may God bless!