I heard this phrase the other day
and it actually inspired me to finally sit down
Yes I know,
long time coming
so hopefully it’s worth the read.
The first thought that came to my mind
was looking back to my younger days.
Being aware of the people
who played such important roles in my life,
I can’t help but realize
that I truly did not have to impress anyone.
There honestly wasn’t a need to fall into any sort of “peer” pressure
and I really didn’t have to try as hard as I did
just to fit in
as I look back on it now.
The connections I made with my friends through the years
were deep-rooted and real from the very beginning.
If I knew then
what I know now
I would have been much more relaxed being me
because those same people
who to this day still have such an impact on my life,
accepted me just they way I was all along
and lo and behold
still do because they continue to make the choice
to stay involved in my life
to this very day.
(even if the jokes I tell are still super corny
and they sometimes wonder if I will ever grow up)
I really never had to improve my appearance
or look a certain way
now that I am completely aware of that,
however I honestly thought I had to
in order to feel accepted.
Case in point:
I actually allowed them to sit me down
and apply make up
which to me was basically the equivalent
to Chinese torture.
(those who know me well are nodding right about now)
I never had to try to be someone I wasn’t
and thank goodness my choice to be simple
funny and ordinary
was just fine by them.
My family saw the potential in me
even if I did make mistakes
and if I would have known then
what I know now,
it would have dawned on me very early on
that no matter what,
I would still be the same wonderful person
with a good heart
and I would never have worried near as much
that I needed approval
to be exactly who God intended me to be.
Life’s journey has us all taking roads
we sometimes aren’t ready for
especially in our younger years
and as we look back to the decisions we made along the way
one thing becomes very clear
that no matter what it was,
or how hard it may have been to get through
we always scrutinize our choices or decisions
good or bad
because of how it may have looked to others.
The way I see it,
nothing is worth regret.
Nothing is worth how others perceive it
or judge it.
Now that I am finally at an age to be considered
“experienced” or “qualified”
or at least
“old enough to know better”
and most of all your being
is of great importance to you and only you
when the time comes to meet your maker.
I suppose if I got the chance to tell young people
what I have learned
knowing what I know now,
it would be
trust in who you are.
Look at the people around you
that love you unconditionally,
that need you in their life
as much as you need them.
If you feel the need to fit in
or think being important or successful
to certain people
who don’t genuinely support you
or get you
is all that will ever matter,
you will lose yourself somewhere along the way
trying to be someone you are not
and that creepy word
will haunt you one day.
Keep it simple really.
There is only one YOU
and if you pay very close attention to the people
who have liked the “real” you unconditionally from the start,
I can promise they will be loving you
every step of the way.
Life is hard enough as it is,
and what better way to be
going through it
than by being yourself!
I really could go on and on
but I figure I’ll just put this out there
and let you think through it.
So one more time…
If you knew then,
what you know now
where would your mind take you?
Make it a great day everybody
and may God bless!